If you're curious about anal sex, you're far from alone. It may seem taboo, but behind closed doors, it turns out that more than 1 in 3 women ages 19 to 44 have tried anal sex at least once, according to a survey published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. That said, it's probably not a regular Saturday night thing. But a few things are clear: Before you try it, it's worth taking time to discuss what to know, what to avoid, and how to prepare for anal sex to make the experience amazing. Here, sex experts share what you need to know if you're interested in trying it out. Skip experimenting if you have hemorrhoids or are having digestive issues, and use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn't create its own lubrication during arousal. Try silicone-based lube ; it's thicker and won't dry out the way water-based lubes can, suggests Charley Ferrer , a clinical sexologist based in New York City and author of Sex Unlimited.
1. Relax your mind...and body
Despite increasing pop culture coverage, anal sex is still heavily stigmatized. While this might be true for some women, assuming it goes for all women is completely unfair. Woman A: It honestly does hurt, be prepared, and use lots of lube if you want an easier time. Woman B: At times, it can be uncomfortable, but I don't recall that it ever really hurt.
2. Communicate openly
This is the fifth in a multi-part series from After Hours about anal play. You can see the other posts in the series as they come out here. Anal sex is pretty polarizing. No one is going to force you to try anal, but there are a few compelling reasons to give it a go:. Just like with any other type of sex, you have to take precautions to keep yourself safe during anal. You can transmit STIs through anal sex. In fact, transmission rates are higher for anal sex than for most other sexual activities, since anal tissues are sensitive and susceptible to microtears. The good news is that pregnancy is clearly not a concern.
More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy.