Dear Abby: I am the single dad of two teenage boys 17 and 18 who are both in high school. I am wondering about something they do with their friends. The boys take showers in large groups. When they come in from running or sports, or if a group is spending the night, they shower in groups of two, three or four. When I asked the boys about this, they looked at me like I had two heads. They said it was just a social thing and the same as showering together after football in the school gym.
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Send questions for Cecil Adams to: cecil straightdope. Your direct line to thousands of the smartest, hippest people on the planet, plus a few total dipsticks. In the two school systems I went to in my teens we had to take PE for grades For this we had to wear gym clothes which we changed into before class and out of after class in a locker room. No one in any of my classes ever thought about taking a shower after class. The thought of being naked around a bunch of other 13 year olds was just too horrifying to be imagined. However, in the media it just seems sort of taken for granted that such things occur routinely. Did I go to an out of the ordinary school, is showering after gym class common?
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Every time I use the bathroom at one of my grandchildren's school events, I flash back to my own childhood. Coming face-to-face with the communal trough urinal and door-less toilet stalls triggers my feelings of juvenile embarrassment. In case a man has never used one of these urinals, eHow offers up advice on "How to Use a Trough Urinal. Communal bathing and spas have been around for thousands of years, but the concept of modesty is a relatively recent one for Western culture. Many indigenous people would play sports without any covering, and athletes in ancient Greece also competed naked. Taboos against nakedness grew in Europe in the 18th century. Women began to wear more layers of clothing and protected their modesty and avoided the gaze of men at the beach by entering the water through elaborate bathing machines. But certain aspects of the tradition of naked competition still existed when I was a young man growing up in Chicago in the early 's.
What's with the ads? My 13yo ds works out at a gym. My dh and I believe it's a safe enough place that it has been a drop-off activity for him for about a year.